Saturday, February 26, 2011

Why Women Think They're Ugly

I am addressing this issue because few have come up to me and asked how does it feel to be so beautiful? And some, with a hint of negativity; you don't think you are THAT pretty are you? Both of which, I absolutely agree on. Yes I am beautiful, and yes I am not THAT pretty. And even, to satisfy the other subset of fanbase, yes I am ugly.


How?

The concept here is that, everybody has different taste in woman or man. Sometimes we see this one woman as a goddess with the perfect facial features and bone structure, then wonder how come no man feels the same? Sometimes we might even argue with our partner simply because he finds Taylor Swift (for eg.) attractive and we go, that pale dummy?! This is of course, due to the many aspects of growing up that differ from one person to the other.


Personally, I am a weirdo myself, when rating a man's attractiveness level. Scrap the eyes, nose, smile, and height. I am always attracted to:

1) A lean neck
2) Symmetrical hairline meets bushy straight hair
3) Small waist and small butt
4) Straight shoulders .

When rating a woman, I am attracted to 1) Long teeth 2) Elegant thin fingers. You find it amusing? Tell me what are the features that you consider in rating a man or a woman? You might amuse me too in return.



Crazy about hairline.


That is why, we should always be empathic when our dear friend has fallen in love with someone rather ugly (to our eyes, according to our 'taste'), because later in life, s/he might be thinking the same about our choice of partner. Nobody have the exact same taste in something (except maybe some identical twins, but still not all), so chill already. Beauty is too subjective. Nobody gets to be beautiful in all eyes, as well as nobody gets to be ugly in all eyes.


Bear in mind that; if you think you are ugly, there are people out there who thinks otherwise. From now on when you wake up and look at the mirror, praise The Almighty Allah for creating and giving you, your perfect features. Again, my theory is that, if you really think that you are ugly;





You are not ugly,
you are just not your own taste.



Heck, even I am not my own taste.

188 comments:

  1. i dont feel like that lah sis :)
    HAHA. btw, nice entry. =D

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  2. yup toi 2..hehee p gadis ase gadis cantik..hehehe hanis pown cantik...comel ag..

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  3. btul jgak apa yg awk kata..
    sebelum ni memang rasa rendah diri bout my looks. tp bla fkr balik, sy ptut bsyukur kat ALLAH sebab cipta saya sempurna tanpa cacat cela

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  4. yaa that's right..b'syukurlah & sayangilah diri anda apa adanya..:D

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  5. OMB hamis jalikha i teringin nak jumpa u face-2-face...wanna see how unique u r.. :)

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  6. keknis.

    sangat2 betul. kita nak apa yg kita suka ada pada diri kita.



    knnnnnnnnnnnnn?

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  7. everyone have their own choice right?

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  8. i rate women on:
    1) smile, despite her mouth's shape
    2) hair
    3) dress up
    ehee sound judgmental. :/

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  9. You are not ugly,
    you are just not your own taste.

    im with you all the way!! someone out there might actually love the features that we hate on ourselves kan? :D

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  10. indeed!

    i find boys attractive when they hv
    - bushy long thick eyebrows
    - tall
    - lil bit chest hair.
    haha. i know other girls say "ewww" when i mention chest hair. its sexy la oi. haha

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  11. Great post! And I am totally agree with it.. Others might think the way different like what we think.. :)
    Beauty are subjective..

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  12. i'm so ugly!..i hate myself since i was young..i wear glasses(it makes me look worse..i used to wear contact lense but since it is so 'leceh' than i stopped)..i hate the whole of my body part..my eyes,my nose, my lips,my skin.. i'm so thin (that makes me flat like a boy)..i also look older than my real age..but alhamdulillah..there was a man fall in love with me (my dearie husband)..but still i've to give some effort to make him attracted to me..:(

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  13. dulu sy rasa sgt burok. tapi bila da besar sy yakin sy xde la seburok mana. manusia boleh berubah kan ;))

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  14. dulu sy rasa sgt burok. tapi bila da besar sy yakin sy xde la seburok mana. manusia boleh berubah kan ;))

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  15. to NH..man, i love men with hairy chest too...but not too much. hahahaha...yep, i agree with u..damn sexay!!!!

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  16. nice entry! yup stiap org mpunyai tarikan tsendiri. yeah, cntik 2 kn subjektif. klu muka cntik akhlak huduh pn xguna jgk kn?
    yg pntg kte sume cntik di mata org2 ttntu... hiks!

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  17. Agreed with NH.Men wif hairy chest is sexayy!!! hehehe..but not too much hair pls. :)

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  18. boys im attracted to :
    - long face
    - tall
    - wide smile
    - deep voice

    hish, tak malu betul sy., :")

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  19. wohhh it didn't cross my mind why i always think that i'm ugly. so the reason is my appearance is not my taste. ok accepted!

    thanks hanis for the theory ;D

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  20. wohhh it didn't cross my mind why i always think that i'm ugly. so the reason is my appearance is not my taste. ok accepted!

    thanks hanis for the theory ;D

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  21. this is embarassing, but i'm gonna say it anyways.

    i like *painfully skinny guys* despite the fact that i am a chubby gurl.

    hahahahahaha...and the part that says "you're not your own taste", hell yeah you're right. cuz sometimes when ppl complimented my fb photos,i'd go "you're not serious are you"? of course i feel flattered, i'm just..well...not letting myself getting used to comment.

    awesome entry, hanis!

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  22. this is embarassing, but i'm gonna say it anyways.

    i like *painfully skinny guys* despite the fact that i am a chubby gurl.

    hahahahahaha...and the part that says "you're not your own taste", hell yeah you're right. cuz sometimes when ppl complimented my fb photos,i'd go "you're not serious are you"? of course i feel flattered, i'm just..well...not letting myself getting used to comment.

    awesome entry, hanis!

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  23. semua orang adalah cantik.

    terpulang pada pembawakan diri dan personalitu


    :)

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  24. a'aa..d quote is damn perfect la hanis!damn pathetic kan d feeling,huhuh :p

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  25. You are not ugly,
    you are just not your own taste.

    wah! betapa betul dan coolnya kata kata diatas ini..

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  26. "You are not ugly,
    you are just not your own taste".

    masing2 ada keunikan tersendiri..

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  28. uiks..ramai je yang ckp hanis zalikah cantik..paling rmai yang cakap hanis zalikha cantik giler!!!

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  29. Sometimes we might even argue with our partner simply because he finds Taylor Swift (for eg.) attractive and we go, that pale dummy?!

    Finally.

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  30. nice entry.. nak share.. betul..setuju dengan kata2 Hanis.. Hanis ni kira taste saya la..sebab saya rasa Hanis cantik je

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  31. Well, unlike the man, there is a researcher claims that women in general, they view the concept of beauty using both brains. wuh!

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  32. i think you're as beautiful as a goddess Hanis Zalikha.

    women
    1) i like curvy butts
    2) i like long fingers
    3) i like long legs
    4) cute smile

    lol!

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  33. everyone is beautiful in their own way...

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  34. cool , tak semua perempuan minat lelaki mcm nie !

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  35. Hanis,

    TQ for such awesome entry. u make my day darling!

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  36. Tsk tsk, Taylor Swift ade dalam entri ni. :D

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  37. beuty is deep in your heart..layak ke kita nak kata kan itu cantik ini tak cantik sedangkan semua dicipta Allah..tapi klu sentuh soal taste yes..masing2 ada taste tersendiri..

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  38. Agree with that. By the way, everyone got their own way to attract people. Not only by their great looking face and body :)

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  39. dont hate me cause im beautiful. hahaha

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  40. for me:
    lelaki- tanned, gigi lawa
    wanita- suka senyum, kuku kemas

    yap betui tu, taste beda2, maka tepuk dada tanya selera ;-)

    n plus, bak kata tyra banks "Beauty is only interesting when it's debatable"

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  41. "You are not ugly,
    you are just not your own taste."


    I chanced upon your blog today.

    I've been struggling with issues for as long as I can remember; but try as I might, I've never gotten out of the pit.

    But your quote blew my mind. A sudden, much-needed paradigm shift.

    You may not believe the gravity of your words but today, you changed my life.

    Thank you.

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  42. the thing is..be grateful of how u look... because beauty isnt everything... its basically on how u dress n present urself so that u will look beautiful~

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  43. and by the way hanis, *forgot to say earlier*... u r attractive... beautiful i must say...^_^

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  44. haha betol . kecantikan ni terlalu subjektif . lain orang lain cerita dia :D

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  45. biarlah kita jadi diri kita sendiri kan..:)

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  46. good entry hanis :)

    i myself am very much attracted to tall kemas guys that are kinda nerdy. lol.

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  47. 'you are just not your own taste'

    that itself is against Allah's nature, dont u think? :)

    after all, this entry is almost perfectly written!

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  48. betul tu .. kecantikan tu terlalu subjectif... i x peduli org lain fikir.. i tau i cantik... haha :)

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  49. yup..setuju...
    mmg kekadang kita akan rs sgt rendah diri bila melihat org yg lebih cantik dari kita..tp sbnrnya kecantikan tu dtg dari dlm diri kita..bila dalaman diri baik..akan trserlah pd luaran...
    apa2 pun kita kena terima seadanya diri kita...:)

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  50. beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder :)

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  51. true. actually everyone is beautiful hanis !

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  52. ahaha

    i look at shoulders, arms n hands on a man. oooh hands tell a lot of things~
    maybe jawline.

    *kipas2 diri*
    ;)

    i find mr depp and simon baker very good looking. some disagree but i like what i like haha

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  54. ah not exactly physical attributes, but i find lefties hot ;)

    (husband turned out to be a lefty too ;))

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  55. salam..
    but....
    for me..all women
    are beauty..

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  56. I AM NOT MY OWN TASTER ALWAYS, I THINK I'M UGLY. HAHAHAHAHAHAAH, thanks HANIS! <3

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  57. oLa..'kejelitaan adalah hak milik setiap insan'..huehue

    kite x chantek p0n..tapi manis tetap ada [ada la sikit]..n_n

    cantik?!
    chantek?!
    santek?!
    cuantek?!

    hurm.....

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  59. bagi saya, perempuan adalah ciptaan yang paling indah oleh tuhan.... :D

    sape nak tau kisah yang paling JAHANAM klik sini

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  60. i am glad i am my own taste :)

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  61. Quoted from The ANTM :

    "You are beautiful when you are beautiful from the inside."

    My 2cents : Those who judge too much on others are pathetic. Not knowing that they're too being judge from the Above until their last breath. I wonder if they know that.

    ps: Following ur blog and adding up to my bloglist :) I'm feeling beautiful with this/your entry :)

    Cheers!

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  62. Cntik yg thn lama ble die cntik dr dlm..:-)

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  63. well said!!!! horreyyyy for hanis zalikha! i pinjam ur quote ek!

    :)

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  64. brilliant point hanis!
    u made my day :)

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  65. hai HZ :)..everybody have their own taste..different people, different taste..but,if someone love the person, normally they will deny 'the ugly'..nice entry.

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  66. kita kene perasan chantek, barulah jadik cantik

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  67. GREAT ! XD

    agreed 100% , good job , lovee it !(:

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  68. ckp psl cantik saya sensitif skit ..
    ramai dah ckp kt sya mcm2 ::( ramai ygejek sya gemuk sis :( sedeyh :/ rasa mcm mana entah~ sakit sgt hati bila org persendakan izikal kita.. saya sedar say agemuk tp saya pon ada hati dan perasaan :(

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  69. Ohh.. macam tukah...
    tapi camana bg org yg rasa dia lawa / hensem??
    adakah mereka taste diri mereka?
    ce citer ce citer...

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  70. You are not ugly
    you are just not your own taste!!

    Definitely true :)

    BTW, I always go by this ~ beauty is in the eye of the beholder hence beauty is a very subjective things.

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  71. The truth is..u got beautiful brain la Hanis.. Sungguh jeles with this part.. External beauty i x jeles sgt sbb i think i just suit my own taste..ahakss.. You totally come with brain...jeles2...ahhahah

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  72. when you see my photos you'll know why i think im ugly. hee

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  73. when u see my photos , you'll know why i think im ugly. seriously.

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  74. totally agreed wif u..
    like dis entry da most

    to be frank wif u
    sumtimes i envy to u..
    u got da perfect bone structure, skin, height its so flawless.

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  75. nice one! love this entry,,good job hanis zalika ;) 100% agree with you!

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  76. very well said. Women across the world are beautiful in their own ways...

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  77. I love this post..terus nak nyanyi lagu beautiful....

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  78. confident ,, hihi the way we proud of ourself is the beauty hoyeh ~

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  79. if all girls think they're ugly, I wonder why they keep 'camwhoring' and posted it on facebook.girls are funny indeed

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  80. agree...everyone is created perfect dear...

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  81. kcantikan tu pd mata yg mmndang,
    hehhehe..

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  82. Yea!! I'm not ugly, and i'm quiet pretty =P (must be confident) ^^

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  83. everyone please admit that u also had those feeling even a lil bit. even tiny as dust. we often dissatisfied with ourselves when we saw someone who looks better to our eyes.

    btw my ideal life parnert type is someone who had jaw bone like Brad Pit hehhehe

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  84. The first forehead pic looked like Rob Patz..is it him?

    Everybody is beautiful in their own way and style..
    Be thankful for it!

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  85. sbb kite cam tak cukup bersyukur.. kan? -_-

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  86. awesome post...heee...:)
    suke laki kurus... rambut pacak...tak berapa hensem..heee..:)

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  87. my mom always said that beauty lies on the eyes of beholder.

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  88. You are not ugly,
    you are just not your own taste.

    - thumbs up for you!!! :D -

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  89. im so fond of eyes. nearly fall in love to contact lens users. No really into people with long face. banana shape

    pendedahan kisah rumah berhantu di shah alam

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  90. nyanyi lagu Bruno Mars - Just The Way You Are to motivate ur self..

    "..Cause you're amazing.. Just the way you are.." ;)

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  91. "...Cause you're amazing.. Just the way you are..." Bruno Mars =)

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  92. cantek is subjective.. kalu semua org taste same, susah la kan?

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  93. among all your entries, i heart this one! i used to think i was ugly but like you said, when to think there are people out there who think i am pretty while some might not, so WTH.. i take the pretty one instead of the ugly one.. ehehehe ;P

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  94. kak hanis, this is why a lot of people love you very much!!!!!

    akak sgt bijak bila lontarkan pendapat..

    yup, saya rasa hodoh n tak berkeyakinan bila nak berdepan dgn org..

    LOSER

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  95. beautiful is subjective matter.. btw, i have some tips for beautiful skin. visit my blog ya!! http://ezbungamatahari.blogspot.com/2011/02/cantik-sihat-dan-awek-muda.html

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  96. beautiful is subjective matter.. btw, i have some tips for beautiful skin. visit my blog ya!! http://ezbungamatahari.blogspot.com/2011/02/cantik-sihat-dan-awek-muda.html

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  97. yeahhh...bersyukur dengan apa yg ada walaupun tahu kekurangan..

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  98. i like these in a guy :

    Physical
    1) tanned
    2) tough built
    3) straight hair
    4) mata bulat @ xsepet sgt
    5) taller than me (170 cm and above)

    muahahaha! :p

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  99. Alaaa...Omote pun nak jadi cantik gak...Omote nak jadi cantik! Omote nak jadi cantik!

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  100. Couldn't agree more. Beauty is the eyes of the beholder :)

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  101. tak perlu kata apa apa..senyum :)

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  102. definitely right..
    i recently got married and my husband seems to be like my childhood photo yg paling i tak suka.

    apparently, i am his taste although i am not my biggest fan..
    ..

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  103. boring... mana si Demoketot lama tak nampak?

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  104. Hanis, i'm totally agree!

    **terima kasih kerana membuka mata sesetangah manusia yang terlalu memandang rendah pada diri sendiri.. =)

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  105. kamu mmg cntek. pena nmpk kt sgmt dulu cume tme tu xsure sape . sampailah tya junior dip dia ckp " tu hanis zalikha la kak!" :)

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  106. You are not ugly, you are just not your own taste ( Hanis, 2011) :p

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  107. wow what a good post! totally agree with you!
    I rate guys:
    1) kekiutan mukanya di pandangan mata aku
    2) lips
    3) hairstyle
    4) neck (lagi suka kalau ada moles kat neck..erghhh so sexy)
    5) chest
    6) body yang tak kurus and tak gemok or ketul2 sangat..
    7) dress up
    8) height

    i've dated my dream guy before (totally 100% perfect like what i dreamt for a guy my whole life) but, he was not my soulmate. and now i'm married to a guy yang maybe 70% je from my dream guy but he is my soulmate..=)

    hope hamis will find your soulmate too!

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  108. The one that makes us look ugly is not entirely ourselves. We think we're ugly becoz we're not our personal taste. But that's only a quarter of it. We always think that we're ugly becoz we're not most people's personal taste. And it's irritating for someone who is already in this comfortable zone to point out tiny-miny things he/she doesn't like about him/herself.

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  109. when u feel less, it makes u to become more..

    so, to feeling less is good.. :)

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  110. BRAVOO BRAVOOO !!!

    http://fiqras.blogspot.com/

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  111. beauty in the eyes of beholder
    huhuhu

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  112. kalau chinese saloon potong rmbt buruk lak cmne ? aaa ! *geram rmbt xelok

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  113. that last statement....IS JUST FUNNY AND RINGS A BELL OF TRUTH...

    NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY...now got me dying because of stitches of laughterssssssssssss

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  114. This is a good artikel utk mereka yang rasa...AKU TAK CANTIK!!

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  115. cute..is perfectly means ugly but nice to see..

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  116. must get some "hairline"
    ngeeeeeeee
    =)

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  117. i basically rate on boys based on :

    1) teeth
    2) pointed nose
    3) hairline too ;)

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  118. Kadang2 kitew suka perempuan gedik. Tapi orang lain katew kenapa suka perempuan gedik? LOL!

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  119. I THINK IM BEAUTIFUL ENUF.IS IT RIGHT ? KEHKEH XD

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  120. I ALWAYS THINK THAT IM BEAUTIFUL ENOUGH.MUAHAAHA

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  121. Haha..syukur ler dgn diri sendri. Belajar hargai diri sendiri. Kita memang lain dari yang lain. Barulah berwarna warni hidup ini.

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  122. HANIS ZALIKHA! lol this entry became my material for final exam just now.. dafuq2.. hahah

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