Surviving Break-Up(s)

Friends have seen me gone through few breakups all my teenage (gunakan perkataan ini selagi boleh sebelum cecah 21tahun! Cepat! Sebelum Oktoberrr!) love life and their significant remarks would be, "You seemed so happy as though nothing has happened, how did you do it?". Obviously, no sane person would be fine with losing something/someone they love dearly, but you gotta move on y'know. Life is short. See tup tap tup tap I'm no longer a teenager bulan seploh ini (-_-")

Of course, diambil kira siapa yang end the relationship, whether on good terms/otherwise, reasons behind decision dan sebagainya. Dan semua faktor ini semestinya buat fasa perpisahan kita itu berlainan. Tapi this is what I can give you in general, like how I handled it and what you can apply. This entry is a response entry to FB msgs I've received from my past break-up. LOL SORRY IT TOOK SO LONG GUYS T_T

Guide to Surviving Break Up(s)
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Cry your heart out
Menangislah seperti Kasim Selamat cucuk mata kau. It's good to express yourself and let anger/sadness out. Tapi ingat! Satu atau dua malam sahaja! Jangan drag setiap malam kau nak nangis, memang pathetic, sila offer pipi untuk ditampar.


Listen to sad songs
Inilah masanya nak perasan semua lagu putus cinta dicipta untuk kau! Seriously. Tiba-tiba perasan semua DJ stesen radio tempatan memahami apa yang kau lalui dan mainkan lagu Bila Cinta 20kali sehari, padahal tengah promosi Lagenda Budak Setan. BILA CINTA INI... TAK LAGI BERMAKNA... YANG KURASA KINI... HANYALAH NESTAPA... pastu kau taktau pun nestapa tuh apa, tapi nak rasa gak.


Empty Recycle Bin
Self-explanatory kot nih. Jangan dikenang kisah/memori/files lampau. Tak elok untuk soul kita. Kalau orang kata pengalaman mengajar, ya baiklah, ambil pengajarannya saja. Pengajaran sahaja! Memori cinta luka biar Naser Wahab je kenang. Lagipun tak elok kalau future pacar kita tengok kita masih simpan barang-barang lama dan gambar etc. You wouldn't like that from him too, am I right? Yeah I know I'm right.


Remove All Contacts
Ini paling vital ever, jangan contact your bekas kekasih please. Dia call, reject. Dia sms, delete. Dia comment Facebook, unfriend. Dia email, letak dalam spam. Meanie? Not really, this is good for both of you to move on. At least sampai you dah certain you takde feelings lagi. Then nak contact balik sukati, masing-masing dah besar. OMG this is so my favourite phrase now, 'masing-masing dah besar'. So adult! So reaching 21years old this coming October!


Talk About It
Takpe, ceritalah. Luahkan. Dekat orang yang paling rapat dan won't judge you. Then STOP. Stop talking about it. Stop dropping his/her name in conversations. Stop relating all incidents with what you've experienced with this specific past of yours. Have no one to talk to? Remember... God? It's okay. Benar bila ditimpa musibah barulah sujud lama sikit, doa panjang sikit. We are only human.


Get Occupied
Stop mourning already and do something with your life. Setiap detik you are on your own doing nothing, minda mesti mengusha kisah lampau dan manusia lampau. Jangan biarkan itu terjadi. Bila ada masa senggang, cepat-cepat isi dengan aktiviti bernilai! Lepak dengan kawan-kawan! Takpe kalau kawan kata 'huk aloh kau, dah break baru cari kitorang', takpe. Takpe sebab padan muka kau, siapa suruh perangai camtu, lupa kawan bila bercinta. Kahkahkah.


Change Routine
Dulu setiap malam bergayut? Setiap pagi bermesej? Setiap hujung minggu berdating? Masa untuk tukar rutin itu! Kalau dibiarkan kosong, lagi kosonglah rasa hati.

Establish Rapport
Datelah semua orang yang ajak kau dating selama ini tapi kau terpaksa tolak sebab berpunya. Keluar makan, tengok wayang, pergi gym, whatever you fancy. Ini bukan looking for love atau pengganti, just to get a good look of the outside world and what it has to offer. Sebab these are all the rebound people, dan most likely you are a rebound to them too.


Give Change A Chance
Takyah nak Obama kat sini, Hanis. Hehehe, bila you are completely certain dah move on (emotionally), you can give love a chance once again. Remember, jangan zalim terhadap diri sendiri & future pacar dengan go into relationship without getting over your past guy/girl. It's unhealthy.


Listen to Happy Songs
Yeahhh, mannn.